YO MOMMA Series…

Have we agreed that maybe the time to stop blaming YO MOMMA is at hand?  Good, now we can proceed.

Let’s take ONE scenario and talk it through.  You have this “YO MOMMA”.  She’s a party girl.  Not exactly the cupcake baking model you’d hoped for but hey…people seem to like her and she’s not that bad to you personally.  Her parties come and go…your school nights pass by with little to no effort on her part in your big scheme of life but you manage.  Cheering or Football practices come and go and somehow you find a ride and again…you manage.  Occasionally you hear an “atta boy or girl” and your smile widens.  Man, it feels good when YO MOMMA gives you that smile….the one that makes you believe she totally has it in her…that she could ROCK this thing called Motherhood with just a tiny bit of effort…..sometimes it makes it seem all worth while.  Then the parties began again….mayhaps with a vengence, depending on what’s going on in her life and your soul despairs.  Here we go  again.  BUT….you manage.  YO MOMMA may miss a very important event in your life…maybe too much drink?  Maybe not as aware of what is going on your life as you’d hoped….BUT….you manage.  Beginning to get the picture?  Your DNA may be a little stronger than you thought.  YOU find a way to manage.  Fast forward 20 years.  You’ve been “managing” for too long and you’re over it.  The blaming begins. Maybe it didn’t take that long.  Maybe it never stopped.  “If YO MOMMA had just been there for you a little more…If YO MOMMA had showed you the love you needed…IF YO MOMMA had just shown you how life should be lived”….All true. 

Get it out…Scream it out loud….Cry it out…Kick…Stomp… talk it over with a friend, or a therapist but GET IT OUT!  Because…that part of life is now over.  Take the good parts you remember (if you have some) and get moving in the direction of YOUR choice.  YO MOMMA had her reasons or her excuses just like the rest of us.  Maybe you’re mad at GOD for choosing her DNA for you.  Whomever you’re mad at….GET OVER IT!  Because after all, excuses are just excuses…no matter who they come from.  They may have merit but if they are not serving YOU in getting on with your life…WHY keep them in your circle of life…of love?

Like I’ve said…I am a YO MOMMA and I have also been a YO KID with a not so perfect home life.  I loved my Mom very much.  She was very much like the scenario presented above. Fun loving, always had friends, loved to dance….was the life of every party and her life was one big party.  She loved the beach, she loved to read, she loved a new convertible car usually baby blue and large but the operative word here is LOVE.  The words she spoke had love in them very often. Her actions spoke that she loved herself a little more than her children at times.

There comes a time in all of our lives where we have to choose to make a new choice, maybe our first choice but NOW is the time.  NOW is your time.  MO…YO MOMMA to come…